Take a Hint
I prefer not to dwell on the subject, but I wanted to recount two amusing conversations I've had this week.
First was with a Jehovah's Witness who stopped me right after I dropped Ryan off at his preschool. I was just putting Millie back in her car seat and turned around to find the two women standing and waiting for me. I greeted them and the one lady asked, "Is that your baby?"
"Yes, she's seven weeks old."
"Oh, you just had a baby?"
"Yes, I sure did."
"You look like you just had a baby."
"Yep."
"Well, actually you look really good for just having a baby. My daughter had a big stomach for a long time afterwards."
"Thanks."
(Or no thanks)
First was with a Jehovah's Witness who stopped me right after I dropped Ryan off at his preschool. I was just putting Millie back in her car seat and turned around to find the two women standing and waiting for me. I greeted them and the one lady asked, "Is that your baby?"
"Yes, she's seven weeks old."
"Oh, you just had a baby?"
"Yes, I sure did."
"You look like you just had a baby."
"Yep."
"Well, actually you look really good for just having a baby. My daughter had a big stomach for a long time afterwards."
"Thanks."
(Or no thanks)
Next was Ryan. (While rubbing my stomach.)
"Mom, when is your tummy going to be flat?"
"After I eat right and get some exercise."
"Well, it's still kinda big."
"I know, it got stretched out when Millie was growing inside. It will get smaller with time."
Now, I will ignore the comments from people that go something like, "Whatever Jen, you look fabulous!" Because quite frankly, I know that I don't look fabulous, but I also know that I don't look awful either. I don't need encouragement or sympathy or anything. My self-esteem is still intact and I realize that I still have a good 15 pounds to lose. I'll get there. I got back after my other pregnancies.
Those kind of comments (truthful kinds) don't hurt my feelings at all. Just keeping it real, right?
9 comments:
Amen, sista...and I'm right there with you. Seriously.
I get ya girl. I should not look pregnant but that has not stopped virtual strangers from asking
By the way I am walking in the morning after dropping off the kids at school. I just keep walking around the community center. I figure that is not ideal for you though
We see ourselves differently that others see us. No one can even tell if I have gained or lost 20 pounds, but I sure can! I still think you look great for just having had a baby. I always get a kick out of Ryan!
I have never been pregnant but my stomach looks like I am. I could stand to lose about 50 lbs. Here's to your good health Jen. =)
why is there some misconception by the world that just because the baby is out means flat tummy. Oh well. You now just have the joy to renovating the home "Millie" lived in for the last 9 months.
I am glad you have a positive attitude, I am so nervous about not losing the weight this time.
Your kids look great and you look very happy to have them. Take care.
This is a really cute family picture.
It always took me way longer to lose those inches when I was nursing. Blah blah blah you already know that your baby is WAY more important that a little gut. Anyway - Derek is the best husband in the world and you never hear him complaining! You are just adorable and lucky JENNY! (plus a very good sport to share such funny stories!)
Who tells a person, "You look like you just had a baby." I'm glad you didn't get offended because a comment like that sure would have been offensive to me.
um, i don't care what you say, you look amazing. you are amazing, but we've already established that. you know what I think? self-esteem and confidence make a person, not a body. a body is just something you use to sport your confidence. Anyway, I've lost the weight from Ivy, surprisingly! 33pounds! I can't believe it came off so fast. i truly am amazed. BUT, I still have weight on me from lance and spencer. i'm right where I was just one year ago, holding steady. just 20 more pounds and i'm set! more than anything though, i wish I had confidence in myself as much as you do in yourself. i'm glad you don't beat yourself up, and i'm glad you know you're amazing. why can't we just live together?
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